Proceed with Caution: Starting to Date in SL

I have a friend who has recently found herself in the situation of being single in SL after a very long time of being in a relationship. I know from experience that can be a hard transition, especially if you enjoyed the comfort and security of a monogamous SL and suddenly have to start thinking about dating and ‘putting yourself out there’ a little more. She’s well aware that she doesn’t want to rush into anything but she’s also well aware that she would like to have some fun again. It got me thinking about what advice I would give her based on my almost 2 years of being single in SL on some of the ‘types’ I have encountered. Again, yes I’m aware girls can be just as bad but I’ve not dated any girls and this is my take on it.

The Chaser

If you like attention you will get it from this one…for a while at least. He will be relentless in lifting you up and telling you that you are the best thing since bento fingers! He’ll make you feel like a million L$… until you admit to liking them back. Suddenly this person is as a rare a sighting as a first time teleport into C88 on opening day. They become uncommunicative. You have to be the one to IM them first. If you don’t you will never hear from them again. Don’t! Let them go…they’ve already moved on to the next chase anyways.

The Player

This one doesn’t need so much explanation we all know this type. This one is shady AF. Secretive, off and on SL a lot. May often crash because they have two alts on as well as whatever avie they are talking to you on. Takes a lot of effort over their avatar to attract as many women as possible. Warning signs: Cocky and over confident.

The ‘I Want My Cake…and That Cake…oh and That Cake’ 

Different from The Player because this one is completely honest about the fact that they want a non exclusive relationship.  This is fine if you don’t want that hassle either and don’t mind feeling like you’re on a rota with half a dozen other girls. This one needs to bring a lot to the party when it’s your turn on the roster otherwise what’s the point?

The Associate

This one you attract if you do anything other than sit on your butt doing nothing in SL. They may follow you on Flickr or your blog or go to your club or shop at your store. They think you have a little bit of SL ‘personality’ and they want in on it. I swear these guys get off on wishing they would be on SL Secrets one day. They don’t want to work hard for any recognition they just want it reflected from associating with you. They’re pretty easy to spot as they will have history of dating well known bloggers or store owners and probably during your first conversation name drop like they are reading an SL phone directory.

I could go on…and on…in fact there may be a Part II to this post in the future. Now on to important stuff like clothes!!!!

About the Stuff:

I am super excited to be blogging for Cynful now. I have long loved this store and, more importantly, have had the opportunity to interact with the creator, Cynthia, on a few occasions and found her to be an absolute delight! That kinda stuff is important to me as a blogger. Not only do the items have to be great and make me want to show them off to you but the person behind the business has to be nice too because I believe when you are promoting a brand you are promoting the whole package.

This is Cynful’s new release for Collabor88 which opens tomorrow. It’s a two piece, top and skirt which comes in a range of solid colours or with the beautiful flower motif that you see in the photograph. It’s available in fits for Belleza Freya and Isis, Slink Hourglass and Original and Maitreya Lara (worn).


Head – Lelutka – Simone 2.5 Bento

Skin – Lara Hurley and Iza Lelutka Applier

Hands – Vista Prohands

Eyes – IKON – Hope

Ears – Mandala – Steking Ears

Hair – Truth hair – Lisette

*Top – Cynful – Bloom Blouse  **NEW** at Collabor88 from 8th April

*Skirt – Cynful – Bloom Skirt **NEW** at Collabor88 from 8th April

Bracelets – Kunglers – Metallize Bracelets

*Pose – K & S Creations – Independent Pose

Location – Devin

7 thoughts on “Proceed with Caution: Starting to Date in SL

  1. All I can say is that I’ve dated some truly dreadful people over my time in SL (cheaters, users, liars, those who say they are gay and who really aren’t) who are best forgotten… keep going because at some point if you’re fortunate, you’ll meet that person who is real and honest and just delightful to be with. It took me a number of years to meet this special person for me.

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