Looking for some Hot Stuff?

How important is how an avatar looks to you? I feel like it shouldn’t be an issue but in all honesty, it is right? It certainly shouldn’t be the only issue but it is still a consideration if you become close, or intimate with someone.  I invest a lot of time and money in how my avatar looks – not for anyone else’s pleasure but for my own. I like to have nice things. I spend a lot of time on SL with my avatar and why be in a world where you can be anything you want to be and be a version from 5 years ago? I don’t think I’m shallow, though I appreciate I might sound like I am right now, but on the flip side, how much you look after your avie says something about how invested you are in Second Life? During one of many conversations about my ‘bum’ over the last week with my friends (see previous post pictures to understand why my bottom was such a topic) I had commented that “I spend a lot of time looking at the back of my avatar and I’m damn sure I’m making it a good view”. There was an element of joking but also a large dollop of truth in that statement.

So, how do you approach the subject with someone you like that you feel needs to refresh or update their look? I can think of plenty of guys who haven’t gone down the mesh head route who still look absolutely amazing, so I’m not saying it has to all be about mesh but even with a system skin the shape needs to be carefully adjusted to smooth out and look as good as the creator intended. I can usually be quite tactful (when I want to be – if you have ever been on the receiving end of me not being quite so tactful then I meant not to be :P), but if you like someone you don’t want to upset them or sound like a shallow asshole but if you can see that person needs some pointers how do you broach the subject?

So, I probably still sound like I’m being unreasonable and I should just base things purely on personality, but I’m really just being honest. What do you guys think? Do looks matter if someone is becoming more than a friend?

About the Stuff:

RealEvil have pulled out all the stops for The Epiphany Gacha with the stunningly sexy Katia set. There are 2 RARES and 23 Commons and a number of ways to mix and match the looks and colours. It’s made for Maitreya Lara only and fits to perfection. I was going to do a ‘rear’ shot but I’ve been getting my butt out enough lately lol. Check out the full collection below:

Katia Gacha @ The Epiphany

Credits:

Head – Lelutka – Simone 2.7 Bento

Skin – Lara Hurley and Iza Lelutka Applier

Hands – Vista Prohands

Eyes – IKON – Hope

Ears – Mandala – Steking Ears

*RealEvil Katia Arm Warmers **NEW** at The Epiphany

*RealEvil Katia Body – RARE **NEW** at The Epiphany

*RealEvil Katia Bracelets **NEW** at The Epiphany

*RealEvil Katia Mask – Exclusive **NEW** at The Epiphany

*RealEvilKatia Sandals – RARE **NEW** at The Epiphany

Hair – Truth Hair – Lisette

[ kunst ] – Cigarette & holder #5 (hand)

Pose – GingerFish Poses – Smoked **NEW** at Pose Fair 2017

Location – Blithe

7 Comments Add yours

  1. Boudicca says:

    An interesting subject, and one near to my heart.
    Because I think how one chooses to appear in SL is an indicator of how much we engage with the platform. If we are a Player, or a Resident.

    In SL we don’t have the body language indicators, or any of the subtleties that we use in the real world, to help form our judgements. We only have our eyes to rely on.
    Therefore, what we see informs all of our perceptions, whether we realise that or not.

    We form our initial opinions by how someone types – their words and phrases, the use of emoticons, pre made gestures, text speak etc.
    And equally importantly……by how they look.
    It’s not about how beautiful they may, or may not, seem to us.
    The importance is how much effort they make with their overall presence.

    But this should not be confused with lack of skills, confidence, funds etc.
    Not ‘bothering’ about one’s appearance, or taking care with communication, is – to me – a subtle indication of how that person may treat me (and so far it has rarely been proved wrong).
    Because these things indicate a person’s personality.

    All of these hints can help us decide if we want to get to know the other person as a friend.
    And if they do become a friend .. shouldn’t we want the best for them?

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    1. Kess Crystal says:

      Bou! Thank you so much for this. I couldn’t put my finger on exactly why it bothered me so much and I think you hit the nail on the head! It’s sending me a message about how invested they are in being a SL Resident in comparison to myself! Now I just have to work how to talk to them about it.

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  2. Honestly, I fully accept that perhaps I am indeed shallow, but I feel like I put a lot of time and money into my appearance and if you’re not doing the same with your avi, the odds are we don’t really have THAT much in common. I enjoy shopping and talking about the amazing creations across the grid. If they don’t, well, there goes a big chunk of my SL passions right out the window. I don’t know if I’d even really bother getting too involved with someone that isn’t already on top of their avatar appearance, to be fair. Simply, because like I said before…we clearly are missing some common ground when it comes to Second Life, ya know?

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    1. Kess Crystal says:

      Very good points Sady – Maybe I should drop some hints about shopping and see how well it’s received haha! ❤

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  3. Moz Loordes says:

    I think it depends on how well you know the person, obviously you don’t want to hurt them in any case. One of the best ways I know is to buy a gift for them. They will then wear the skin or apparel or whatever because it’s a gift and at the same time they will see how much better it looks. After that, it’s up to them. A friend is a friend and precious in this day and age.

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    1. Kess Crystal says:

      I thought about this Moz. To me my skin, shape and look is such a personal thing though. I’d be kind of mortified if someone sent me one and wanted me to change. I’m not sure how well that would go down…they are def a keeper as a friend whatever happens 🙂

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